And unless you’ve got something going for you such as good looks or celebrity status, you don’t want her to instantaneously decide whether she’s attracted to you or not.

Instead it’s better to come in under her radar. Display your alpha male personality, and then you can assume attraction. (I talk more about what it means to assume attraction in my book.)

So here’s the thing: it really doesn’t matter what opening pickup line you use, as long as you don’t say anything too stupid. Your self-confidence level and body language are 1,000 times more important.

Once you’ve got a high level of inner game and your non-verbals are tight, you can even use “hi” as a pickup line.

But for now I suggest this exercise. Next time you’re out on the town, just say simple, indirect things to women you pass by. Make a witty comment, and keep walking past them. Don’t expect them to respond or even wait for a response.

Now, if they do respond, then stop. However, keep your body in the direction you were originally walking, as if you were just going about your business and the girl is the one who is chatting you up.

Then as the girl shows more interest in you (and maybe says witty things to engage your attention), you reward her by slowly turning your body toward hers. Bingo–you’ve now got yourself a woman who likes you.

I just want to conclude this blog post by saying that if you’re new to meeting women and are desperate for the “best” pick up lines, just do this exercise I’ve given you of making indirect statements. That way you won’t get rejected (since that would be impossible, since you just make your witty statement as you walk on by). And as you keep doing it, you’ll get more and more confidence in talking to new women. And as an added bonus, you’ll find a few who are immediately interested in you, and you can then keep talking to them.

This is pick up made easy, my friend. Enjoy the ride.

Let me put it this way: think back to whether you’ve been in situations like these…

- You sit and listen for hours to a woman tell you her boring stories (like the mainstream dating books tell you to).

- You do various favors for that chick you’ve got a crush on, like pick her up from the airport (and carry her bags), help her with groceries, fix things around her house, etc.

- You’re in a relationship with a girl, and you’re chasing her like a puppy — and then after awhile she loses interest in you.

- You’ve blown big bucks on a woman you’ve just started dating, spending money to her dining, to the movies, and even shopping and on vacations.

- You’ve ever bought a girl a drink at a bar, in order for her to talk to you.

So now let me ask you a question… How did that “nice guy” behavior work out for you?

Not too well I bet. Otherwise you wouldn’t have found yourself at my site.

Don’t feel bad though. Odds are you’ve even complained to a woman about this in the past, only to have her tell you something like, “Plenty of women love nice guys. Just be yourself, and there’s that perfect girl out there for you.”

Now, it would be great if this were true, but the fact is, you need to pay attention to how women BEHAVE, not what they SAY. Look at the guys women actually sleep with.

But on the other hand, you may be thinking, you don’t want to be an abusive jerk either.

That’s why I’m giving you a new way of thinking. As your coach, I’m going to make you not into a nice guy or a jerk, but an Alpha Male.

No more are you going to be a clingy wimp. No more are you going to keep screwing up with women, no more being “just friends,” and no more being lonely.

I’m going to do this by fixing you internally. I’m going to put YOU in control of your destiny — NOT women. You’re going to become a rare breed, a high quality Alpha Male, so that getting girls will soon become one of the EASIEST things you can imagine.

That gives you options like…

- A vampire
- A cowboy
- A devil
- A rockstar

An added advantage to these sorts of seductive costumes is that they’re easy and cheap to put together.

The vast majority of guys will be dressed as something goofy. At a Halloween Party I went to last year, there were no less than 2(!) guys dressed as cheerleaders. Some other guy was dressed as a frigging piece of cheese!

Let every other guy be asexual and “funny.” You, on the other hand, will be attractive and alpha.

But it’s always possible that she likes you only as a friend (though unlikely as long as you keep pushing the interaction forward), so my advice is to learn and memorize the following list that I’ve come up with, and then try to forget it.

This is because you’ll paralyze yourself during conversations if you start analyzing small details such as how forcefully she twirls her hair around her fingers.

Once you get enough experience with women, you’ll recognize attraction signals instinctively. The following list of 10 attraction body language signals is in no particular order…

1. She compliments you on just about anything.

2. She feels nervous around you. Look for signs of nervousness such as her muscles twitching.

3. She teases you playfully.

4. She makes an effort to tell you how much she loves the same things you like.

5. She talks about things you guys can do in the future. “You like vintage clothing stores too?” she might say, “We should go sometime!” By the way, this is also something you should bring up with girls. Don’t make it too serious though. Make it like you’re being playful. “We could go shopping for the most pimp looking purple tights on 5th Avenue!” (Say anything playfully absurd that the two of you could do in the future. Keep it verbally non-sexual of course.)

6. When her legs are crossed, look at the foot of her top leg. If it is pointed toward you, it is a sign you’ve got her full attention.

7. She makes an effort to keep the conversation going when it lulls. (Every once in awhile you can even test her attraction by purposely allowing the conversation to pause on your end. Then see if she restarts the conversation.)

8. She touches her face. When a person touches his or her face, it’s a sign that they’re thinking about something. So in order to be sure that she’s thinking good thoughts, look for this signal to be combined with others from this list.

9. She gazes into your eyes and holds her gaze.

10. She mirrors you. (Being passive by nature, women will follow the lead of a man they feel attracted to.) Watch to see whether she…
- Has a similar posture to yours.
- Adjusts the volume of her voice to match yours.
- Adjusts the rate of her voice to match yours.
- Matches the pace of your breathing.
- Laughs when you laugh.

Say it as if you’re not targeting her specifically but could ask that from any woman. Then ask her about whatever you need a woman’s perspective on.

That gets you and her talking for about 2 minutes — and then all of a sudden, of course, the two of you are in a full-blown conversation.

Bottom line is that you can use the “female opinion” pretext in order to gauge whether the chick is even worth talking to. If she’s cold toward you, just say “thanks for educating me” and walk away. (I’ve found that only about 10% of women I strike up a conversation with are worth continuing to talk to.)

Seriously though, the main thing to remember about the chicks at strip clubs is that they view themselves as perfect 10s.

To understand why, let’s look at things from the perspective of a stripper. She’s surrounded by guys paying big bucks just to look at her. To a woman, strippers have a “don’t date customers” policy, even though she knows she can have her pick of any one of them.

You see, the strip club customer is the ultimate beta male. (Don’t feel insulted… I used to be horrible about wasting my paycheck at the local strip joint.) You think an alpha male — a man with abundance of women in his life — would actually pay money just to see a naked woman?! No way!

So you’ve got to break out of the customer mold. Have an ultra-high value mindset and act accordingly. Don’t be like the other guys who just throw money at them.
Tease them and be nonchalant. (Teasing works especially well with strippers.) Be a challenge and act cool.

You, too, can create that aura that makes you attractive to women. Use it to seduce married women, when you’re just approaching women who are single, or when you just want to be confident.

Have you ever noticed the way your friends look when they feel like shit? They’re looking down at the ground with their arms crossed, slouching, and giving off other non-alpha behaviors.

Now, think about successful guys. They’ve got girls all over them and some great body language going on.

Here are some body language pointers to use when courting women (and by the way, if you think they’re easy, you’re right… you can make these changes as early as tonight and have even the hottest girls clamoring for your attention):

1) Relax. This is the most important mental state for you to be in.

a) Don’t allow yourself to feel worried.

Just let your worries go, since you can’t solve any problem by worrying. So suck it up, and quit thinking about what might go wrong. Just live life.

Now, I know what I just said is easier said than done (to use an old —but relevant in this case—cliche). You’ve spent your whole life up until now dwelling on thoughts that make you feel worried.

But what is this emotion we call “worry”? When you think about it, it’s simply the fear of what might happen in the future.

Essentially you’re punishing yourself by feeling upset before anything bad has happened. It makes no logical sense to worry!

So the solution is to avoid contemplating your worrisome thoughts anymore. Identify them for what they are—toxic to your emotional state—and let them go. Simply not dwelling on negative outcomes that make you feel upset will reduce 90% of your worries.

b) Breathe through your abdomen rather than your chest.

When you breathe, imagine that you’re bringing air down to your stomach. Feel your belly rise and fall as you breathe.

c) Avoid nonverbal behaviors that are the opposite of relaxation:

· Raising your shoulders.
· Wrinkling your forehead.
· Fidgeting with your hands and/or legs.
· Tightening your facial muscles.

d) Relax all your muscles and slow down all of your movements a notch.

Alpha males generally move smoothly, as if they are in control of time itself. Beta males are nervous and make jerky movements. Imagine you are standing and walking through a swimming pool, where your movements are slow and fluid.

e) Relax your eyes and eyelids.

Beta males hold their eyelids wide open because they are so nervous. Their eyes dart all around. Instead let your eyelids rest. Look straight ahead. Only give things your attention if they interest you. While you’re out and about, do the affirmation to yourself, “I am sexual, I am relaxed, and I am in control.”

f) If someone wants your attention, move your head slowly.

A trait common to many beta males is being so eager to please that when someone calls their name, you see them spin their heads toward the person unnaturally fast.

2) Feel masculine and powerful.

Visualize that you are a masculine man. Do things in your life that make you feel manly, like lifting weights and working out with a punching bag. Take care of your health.

3) Realize that you are a man of high value. Focus on your qualities and ignore your deficiencies. To become completely confident, think thoughts such as, “I am a player who gets girls easily.”

Sound arrogant? Look at it as therapy to get over your lack of confidence.

Obviously you’ll want to moderate at some point once you become successful and know you’re awesome (so that you don’t go overboard in the opposite direction), but until then think constantly about your greatness.

Treat people as if they are already in awe of you before they even met you. If you have to, visualize Elvis Presley: “Thank yuh, thank yuh verra much…”

4) Feel comfortable in your own skin.

An alpha male is happy with or without any particular woman, since he views women as sources of fun in his life—no more and no less. Take the mindset that of course women want you, but it’s no big deal either way. (Make that one of your personal belief affirmations, as I talk about earlier.)

5) Spread out your body.

Take up space with your arms, legs, and chest. Keep your neck straight with your back so that your head is held high. (Something that helped me get used to keeping my neck straight was removing the pillow from my bed. After all, it’s a major challenge to optimal posture when your neck is bent for 8 hours every night.)

First, it helps to keep hanging out with other girls. Just being with girls (even those you’re not dating) is a good way to soothe your feelings. Even if you don’t feel like doing it, just do it.

Secondly, always have stuff you’re occupied with in your life — work, fun and social activities, etc. If you’re ever alone in your house with nothing to do, the feelings get worse.

Finally, there’s a visualization technique that a friend of mine taught me. It may help you, since you’ve inevitable constructed such a strong image of this girl in your mind.

It goes like this… imagine a picture of the girl you were dating. Make it a really big picture that dominates your mind.

Now shrink the picture, and make it part of a Hollywood Squares set, where there are 9 pictures of girls, all of equal size. Fill in the other 8 pictures with other girls in your life (or who could be in your life).

Then, whenever you think of the girl, imagine her as part of that group of pictures. Now you’ve gotten over your ex-girlfriend since she won’t dominate your thoughts as much, and you’re free to move onto other women.

By the way, never say stuff to a woman things like, “I’m buying you this as a reward.” Just reward good behavior and avoid encouraging bad behavior, and you’ll find that things will work out better for you.

When you do buy the woman things, never make a big deal out of it. You can even say something like, “I’ll pay for the coffee. It’s no big deal.”

What that says to her is that you’re more interested in the social interaction that the two of you are having and that you’re barely even thinking about the drink you just bought her.

It also means that there are no strings attached. By saying “it’s no big deal,” you make it clear that you’re not putting pressure on her to reciprocate what you’ve done for her.

“Buying-me-things-because-he-wants-something-later” is a behavior that many women consider manipulative and results in the man being denied sex. And to be quite honest, many men fall right into that trap by making a big production out of buying the woman nice things. Don’t be that guy.

Unfortunately, the average woman has gone out with so many men who bought her things to try to get into her pants that when you start buying her nice stuff, it triggers an automatic negative reaction within her. “Eeew, he’s trying to buy sex,“ she thinks, and then she turns off on you. The typical woman is not a prostitute and doesn’t want to be treated like one.

Fine, but then what do you do when the check comes? Well, first off, you shouldn’t take a woman out for a big, fancy date until after the two of you have had sex. Then, take her to an expensive restaurant as a reward for her good behavior.

Your first date should be something informal and inexpensive such as coffee. That way when the check arrives, it’s really no big thing. A basic rule of thumb is to ask yourself whether you’d pay if you’d invited out a casual male friend instead of that chick sitting across from you. If the answer is yes, then by all means do it.

And don’t feel like you’re being taken just because you picked up the tab for coffee. You don’t want to lose a lay just because you were too stingy to buy a $3 latte. The main thing you need to do is to realize why you’re doing things. Never buy things for a woman or do favors for her because you think you need to earn her approval. Instead, adopt the mindset of the alpha male: anything you do for her is conditional on her having earned it.

I’ve listed non-verbals that convey dominance in my dating book. There’s some overlap—lots of those signals that convey dominance, such as sustained eye gazing while you speak, also make you more likable.

However, sometimes dominance signals (such as leaning back) can make you more distant. So where appropriate, you may need to balance your dominance with likeability. (Too much dominance makes you unlikable.)

Be conscious of the following top 5 silent techniques that automatically seduce women:

1) Lean forward when you’re sitting across from someone who is telling you something. This communicates interest in what they are saying. However, it’s crucial to make sure that the woman is highly interested in you before doing this, since leaing back is a way for you to non-verbally play “hard to get.”

Once she’s interested in you, lean forward to give the impression that you’re easy to talk to. It’s not like you’re some chump getting over a girlfriend, for example.

2) Directly orient your body and face towards her. Note that you should have dominance established before doing this, since you lose dominance by being more direct with your body language.

3) Smile. This comes natuarally once you use my techniques to build your self esteem.

4) Have a relaxed and spread-out posture.

5) Dress similarly to your group, but just a little bit cooler than everybody else. If you meet the dress expectations of the people you interact with, you will be better liked.

Again, make sure to strike a balance between dominance and likeability. If you never smile, then the woman won’t like you.

But if you smile excessively, it makes you seem like you have low social status—and you’re trying too hard for approval. Some things such as a relaxed, spread-out posture help you with dominance and likeability, so you should be spread out and relaxed all the time.