Posted by John Alexander on September 25th, 2006 — Posted in How To Date Women
Here are five nonverbal sexual communication cues that say “I’m charming” so you can seduce girls on a subconscious level.
I’ve listed non-verbals that convey dominance in my dating book. There’s some overlap—lots of those signals that convey dominance, such as sustained eye gazing while you speak, also make you more likable.
However, sometimes dominance signals (such as leaning back) can make you more distant. So where appropriate, you may need to balance your dominance with likeability. (Too much dominance makes you unlikable.)
Be conscious of the following top 5 silent techniques that automatically seduce women:
1) Lean forward when you’re sitting across from someone who is telling you something. This communicates interest in what they are saying. However, it’s crucial to make sure that the woman is highly interested in you before doing this, since leaing back is a way for you to non-verbally play “hard to get.”
Once she’s interested in you, lean forward to give the impression that you’re easy to talk to. It’s not like you’re some chump getting over a girlfriend, for example.
2) Directly orient your body and face towards her. Note that you should have dominance established before doing this, since you lose dominance by being more direct with your body language.
3) Smile. This comes natuarally once you use my techniques to build your self esteem.
4) Have a relaxed and spread-out posture.
5) Dress similarly to your group, but just a little bit cooler than everybody else. If you meet the dress expectations of the people you interact with, you will be better liked.
Again, make sure to strike a balance between dominance and likeability. If you never smile, then the woman won’t like you.
But if you smile excessively, it makes you seem like you have low social status—and you’re trying too hard for approval. Some things such as a relaxed, spread-out posture help you with dominance and likeability, so you should be spread out and relaxed all the time.
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Posted by John Alexander on September 25th, 2006 — Posted in Picking Up Girls
A lot of other seduction methods talk a lot about picking up women in groups (and in fact, some of the nightclub methods are based on working groups).
I don’t talk a lot about being in groups in my own how to meet women guide, because the bottom line (in my opinion) is that you should only be in a group with a chick’s friends AFTER you’ve had sex with her. And at that point, as long as you remain chilled out, you’ve got nothing to be concerned about.
Having said that, however, here a few simple pointers to be an alpha male in any group situation…
1. Always be the most relaxed person, no matter what the group situation is. If someone else is affecting your reality, then they have dominance over you.
2. Be talkative. It literally does not matter what you’re talking about… just keep those gums flapping. DON’T ANALYZE ANYTHING. Save all self-reflection until LATER. Just let your mind flow, and keep talking.
3. Let nothing affect your reality. If someone says something to get a rise out of you, don’t allow it. Mainly just follow those three things, and you’ll ALWAYS remain alpha. (You may not always be at the very top of every group, because hey, what if the President of the United States is in your group? But you’ll at least always be near the top, and that’s all that matters.)
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Posted by John Alexander on September 25th, 2006 — Posted in Picking Up Girls
No matter how bad you get rejected, do not allow it to phase your reality. There’s no reason to feel bad.
Remember, your manly desires are totally natural and normal. An alpha male never feels ashamed for his high sex drive. Instead, if anything, he feels proud for having gone for it. I know sometimes rejections can be painful.
I’ve had evil rejections by women before. One chick screamed, “Go away!” at me before I could even get out my initial sentence.
Another time a woman got some guy to try to start a fight with me just because I tried to talk with her. I managed to get away without coming to blows with the dude, but I felt like a total chump afterwards.
There’s nothing you can do about rejections. If you’re out in the field chatting with women, they will happen. But almost all of the time, as I’ve explained, they’re something to celebrate. But in those cases where the rejection is so hideous it burns a hole in your heart, the best thing to do is to allow the memory of the rejection to vanish.
That’s what I do, and it’s worked for me. In fact, I’ve probably been rejected worse than the two examples I gave, but the memories of those are quite literally gone from my mind. I’ll explain how to be self confident — and how to again build your self esteem — when you do a this exercise yourself.
I learned this memory-vanish exercise from Tony Robbins, and it’s based on the mental visualization principles from Neuro Linguistic Programming, a form of hypnosis.
Here’s what you do…
1. Make a picture in your mind of the horrible rejection.
2. Make that picture as big as possible and bring it close to you. Feel the burn of the rejection. Make it intense.
3. Now start moving the picture away from you.
4. As it’s moving away from you, make it black and white.
5. Keep moving it, until it’s so far away that it’s just a tiny speck.
6. Now watch the tiny black and white image start pulsating to circus music.
7. As the tiny, far-away image moves in rhythm with the carnival tunes, have it now move so far away that it burns up in the sun.
No longer is the memory of rejection such a big deal, is it?
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Posted by John Alexander on September 16th, 2006 — Posted in How To Talk To Women
This will be controversial, but let’s cut to the chase. Flirting techniques are just a means to an end: having sex.
You know, the biggest myth about women is that they think differently than men when it comes to sex. Lots of seduction gurus perpetuate that myth, since it helps them sell more products. And lots of sexually frustrated guys believe the myth, since it excuses their lack of courage to even talk to women.
So, with the realization that the woman wants it just as much as you do, you should look at flirting as just an innocent way of vibing with a girl until you can get her alone with you to knock boots.
Your emotional and mental attitude should be:
1. Relaxed.
2. Aroused, with lust and desire for the woman.
When you feel those two emotions strongly, all of these things will take care of themselves:
- Your body language
- Your facial expressions
- Making eye contact
- Touching her hand, arm, etc., without being nervous about it.
- Attractive vocal tonality
- Being the man and moving the interaction forward
See how easy that is?
As your light flirty banter goes on, look for signs that the girl is matching your emotional state (i.e., relaxed and sexually aroused). Then get her alone with you and let nature take its course.
What I’ve just told you is the exact blueprint of the easiest way to successfully flirt with girls (and by successfully, I mean take it ALL THE WAY, not just talking to them).
Now that you’ve got the rough outline, in future posts I’ll fill in the details. 
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